Maturity

 

Maturity: Giving A F+ck About What is F+ck Worthy!

Come to Me, and I Will Give You Rest

25 At that time Jesus declared, “I thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to little children; 26 yes, Father, for such was your gracious will.[a] 27 All things have been handed over to me by my Father, and no one knows the Son except the Father, and no one knows the Father except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him. 28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

In his excellent book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F+ck Mark Manson defines maturity in these words:

Maturity is what happens when one learns only to give a f+ck about about what is truly f+ck worthy.”

    I have held the hands without gloves  of several people as they lay dying from the cornovirus, nurses screaming at me. To me that is ‘f+ck worthy’, for it recognizes their humanity, and offers the touch of love in their final moments, their suffering. My prayer is that when my time comes, there is someone who will hold my hand without fear.

    The reality is we all suffer, suffering is a part of our DNA, rich, poor, homeless, old, young, believer, atheist, disabled–we all suffer, simply a part of our DNA.

    Today listening to a part of the President’s speech I cringed, and felt his suffering, a suffering that hurts so many with it’s division, hatred, anger, nevertheless his suffering. Suffering needs to be used to bring support to people, to all of creation.

    Suffering is not black and white, but is a very gray area for it presents itself in all forms, and we all suffer, tremendously. We can cover it with money, power, prestige, discrimination against one another, but we all suffer, and that suffering comes out in both good and harmful ways. We can choose to suffer hurting others, or we can choose to use our suffering in being present to others.

    I have an almost nineteen year old friend, who has for three years every day, snap chatted me, “Good morning,” and “Good night!” It gives me much joy, to be remembered, I feel cared for and recognized. Cale, very simply with three words, eases my suffering.

    We use our religion, our political beliefs, our ignoring others, as a means to try to run a way from  suffering. Anything that tries to cover suffering in ways that are self-centered, and harmful  is an “opiate”.

    For me what is “truly f+ck worthy” in my suffering is the gospel of Jesus of Nazareth and sharing that gospel in my actions with out judgement to others, in order to bring some relief to their suffering.  I choose to share in the suffering of others, so that each of us can find some comfort and hope.

    Jesus invites us to see our suffering  as a part of our journey, and what we choose “to give a f+ck about” determines the joy we find in that suffering.

    He invites us to:

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Deo Gratias! Thanks be to God!

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Father River Damien Sims, sfw, D.Min., D.S.T.

P.O. Box 642656

San Francisco, CA 94164

www.temenos.org

415-305-2124

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